Post by midcan5 on Mar 1, 2011 7:06:12 GMT -5
I can't relate. But I can reply. Each person sees the world as they are not as it is, as you grow, age, mature, or whatever, you start to see the world differently than young. Well most do, but that doesn't mean growing up matures and brings sense to you, it just means time passes. I know lots of old people who are still loony. A aunt of mine, a brilliant person never got over the trauma of growing up, she remanded mentally and physically sheltered till she died. While I think - from reading your rant - you should seek a good therapist, you have to realize lots is up to you. You-we all only exist for a split second of time, why waste it living in your head imagining states of affairs that are not easily changeable. Start to think of the other, and live openly, simply enjoying life and the good things, heck with the bad things. Ignore them. And if you read, check out all the recent books on brain and mind, you may start to see things differently.
'Optimism'
"My friend the pessimist thinks I'm an optimist
because I seem to believe in the next good thing.
But I see rueful shadows almost everywhere.
When the sun rises I think of collisions and AK-47s.
It's my mother's fault, who praised and loved me,
sent me into the dreadful world as if
it would tell me a story I'd understand. The fact is
optimism is the enemy of happiness.
I've learned to live for the next good thing
because lifelong friends write good-bye letters,
because regret follows every timidity.
I'm glad I know that all great romances are fleshed
with failure. I'll take a day of bitterness and rain
to placate the gods, to get it over with.
My mother told me I could be a great pianist
because I had long fingers. My fingers are small.
It's my mother's fault, every undeserved sweetness."
Stephen Dunn
and a few links: start to see the world through other eyes and other realities.
Check out TED, there is some great stuff there on living and the mind and FORA TV too. Edge tool. Stay away from the paranoid insanity of modern TV, where everyone is an ideologue, a narcissistic rich crazy, or running from CSI. Start living, get out of your head, the second is up too soon.
www.ted.com/talks
fora.tv/
www.edge.org/q2010/q10_index.html
Check out Derrick Jensen: www.amazon.com/Language-Older-Than-Words/dp/1931498555/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1298980525&sr=1-3
fora.tv/2011/02/04/Steven_Pinker_Language_as_a_Window_into_Human_Nature
articles.latimes.com/2010/apr/30/opinion/la-oe-shermer-20100430
www.amazon.com/Why-Everyone-Else-Hypocrite-Evolution/dp/0691146748/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8
"How strange is the lot of us mortals! Each of us is here for a brief sojourn; for what purpose he knows not, though he sometimes thinks he senses it. But without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people - first of all for those upon whose smiles and well-being our own happiness is wholly dependent, and then for the many, unknown to us, to whose destinies we are bound by the ties of sympathy. A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life are based on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving." Albert Einstein
'Optimism'
"My friend the pessimist thinks I'm an optimist
because I seem to believe in the next good thing.
But I see rueful shadows almost everywhere.
When the sun rises I think of collisions and AK-47s.
It's my mother's fault, who praised and loved me,
sent me into the dreadful world as if
it would tell me a story I'd understand. The fact is
optimism is the enemy of happiness.
I've learned to live for the next good thing
because lifelong friends write good-bye letters,
because regret follows every timidity.
I'm glad I know that all great romances are fleshed
with failure. I'll take a day of bitterness and rain
to placate the gods, to get it over with.
My mother told me I could be a great pianist
because I had long fingers. My fingers are small.
It's my mother's fault, every undeserved sweetness."
Stephen Dunn
and a few links: start to see the world through other eyes and other realities.
Check out TED, there is some great stuff there on living and the mind and FORA TV too. Edge tool. Stay away from the paranoid insanity of modern TV, where everyone is an ideologue, a narcissistic rich crazy, or running from CSI. Start living, get out of your head, the second is up too soon.
www.ted.com/talks
fora.tv/
www.edge.org/q2010/q10_index.html
Check out Derrick Jensen: www.amazon.com/Language-Older-Than-Words/dp/1931498555/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1298980525&sr=1-3
fora.tv/2011/02/04/Steven_Pinker_Language_as_a_Window_into_Human_Nature
articles.latimes.com/2010/apr/30/opinion/la-oe-shermer-20100430
www.amazon.com/Why-Everyone-Else-Hypocrite-Evolution/dp/0691146748/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8
"How strange is the lot of us mortals! Each of us is here for a brief sojourn; for what purpose he knows not, though he sometimes thinks he senses it. But without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people - first of all for those upon whose smiles and well-being our own happiness is wholly dependent, and then for the many, unknown to us, to whose destinies we are bound by the ties of sympathy. A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life are based on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving." Albert Einstein